A couple of days sewing with friends brings you these quilt photos:
Brenna's Dresdon top coming together. ..You have seen some progress on mine in older posts.
Hard Day Stuff...
My siblings and I got together in early April to make decisions about Dad's treasures. It went well. While I do have brothers, their inheritance is different from ours. Dad gave the girls his collections of things, and they are many. Dad loved auctions where he spent his later years purchasing horse tack, horse drawn wagons and buggies, furniture, harnesses, tents, coats, camping gear, and many many more things. He drove far to collect these things as well as horses traveling to Wyoming, Colorado, and Indiana. He made these trips for years, and loved every minute of them. All of us and several of his grand kids traveled with Dad to these auctions, especially my husband. My sweetheart would joke with Dad and us that he helped Dad bring it all home, and one day, he would have to dispose of it all. That day came unexpectedly this year.
Those trips brought Dad special friendships. As many of the auctions came from Amish communities, he built bonds with one particular family. Dad visited their community annually and took them on a few hunting/horse pack trips over the years. What a treasure it was for us to have this family pay a driver and travel out of state to bring them to Dad's funeral. We enjoyed hosting them in Mom's home and visiting with them.
My sisters, myself, and our spouses spent two days in April organizing and making decisions on how to sell Dad's things. Mom is still with us, but struggles with dimentia. This may sound crazy, but for some moments I can actually see a few blessings come from this disease. Mom is not hurting emotionally or having to deal with the logistical challenges of going through his lifetime collections. She finds joy in seeing things cleaned up. She is able to be home alone with daily family check-ins and meals brought in for her from my sister who lives close. Mom still knows her surroundings and feels peace there. Moving her out of her home would just agitate and confuse her. We are grateful to be able to give her the gift of staying in her own home. We feel she won't be with us long.
So, imagine years of auction purchases collecting on a farm. We honestly took 6 trailer loads of Dad's things to a local auction without even making a dent in his treasures. It feels wrong and very emotional to go through his things. I was with him for many of those purchases and trips. Those experiences brought him joy. My last personal time with Dad was last August when I spent several days with him and Mom driving him to his last auction.
Here are some photos taken during our clean up day. We literally went through Conex boxes, sheds, pastures, and fields.
Some of Dad's saddle collection...me being silly on one of the saddles.

















Oh how I feel for you! My husband has been dealing with a similar ordeal with his dad’s collections of classic cars, tools, genealogies, photographs, stamps, coins etc and he has nightmares where his dad shows up yelling “what did you do with all of my stuff?!” Sending you a big hug.
ReplyDeleteOh my, those buggies and the covered wagon, such treasures. You all have a lot of work deciding what best to do with your Dad's collections. Not an easy job at all and quite an emotional too, I'm sure.
ReplyDeleteOh Deana, and I thought my Mum's clean up was bad! What a task. Time for us all to do what I call 'downsizing and estate planning' even though we are not moving or ill. Our children will thank us for it. All the best with your next session.
ReplyDeleteI can just imagine all the wonderful memories you have of all those precious times you enjoyed with your dad on the antiquing trips. My goodness so many treasures. I love the antique horse drawn sleigh, and that wagon! That brings back memories of all the westerns I have watched through the years. I love that the wagon carried your grandfather to his resting place. A difficult time for your family. It's great that everyone is in agreement re the estate. It's not always so.
ReplyDeleteOh Deana - that is hard - emotionally & physically I think - good that you have a large family around to help - and you are right - your mum is in a good place right now....harder for you to deal with though.
ReplyDeleteI've caught up on your posts - a lot of fun & family time....still hard to believe you have all those grandies...LOL
My goodness, what a collection! And so many memories for you all. So good that you are working together to work through a difficult time. xx
ReplyDeleteIt's always difficult to sort through a loved ones possessions, especially when the items brought such pleasure. It's also a part of the grief journey. You and your siblings did a great job.
ReplyDeleteWow, that’s a huge job. There are so many great items in his collection. I’m glad so many of you are working together
ReplyDeleteoh my what a monumental task....it is a toughie tho regardless of how much stuff there is....
ReplyDeleteHopefully your dad's 'stuff' will be treasured by others now
ReplyDeleteThat's a lot of hard work, physically and emotionally. Hopefully the next work days won't be so hard.
ReplyDeleteWow. This is a monumental task but it seems like you and your siblings are getting the hard part under control. The sorting.
ReplyDeleteThis makes me want to go purge a closet.
Good luck to you all